Destined for Adoption

Tammy De Ruyter

Read: Ephesians 1:1-14 He predestined us for adoption to himself. (v. 5) Adoption, by its very nature, originates in brokenness. One or both biological parents are unable to keep and care for a child. It is an act born out of pain, frustration, and despair. Yet, there is also redemption in this sacrificial gift. The giving parents have an opportunity to change their life’s trajectory; the child has a new home in which to experience family; and the adoptive parents …

The Adoption Quilt

Tammy De Ruyter

Read: Revelation 21:10-27 . . . the Lamb’s book of life. (v. 27) Hanging outside the probate court’s massive double doors, an enormous, hand-stitched piece of fabric is suspended against the wall. The courthouse staff simply refers to it as “The Adoption Quilt,” and all adoptees are asked to sign their names. Not only does it tangibly mark every adoption hearing the judge has presided over, but every signature physically marks the placement of a child in their “forever” home. …

The Community of Saints

Tammy De Ruyter

Read: Ephesians 4:8-16 . . . to equip the saints for the work of ministry. (v. 12) The courtroom was filled to capacity with friends, family, church members, his fifth grade teacher, karate instructor, therapist, even a golden retriever! Anyone who had played a direct role in helping Ben transition from foster child to adopted child was present for this grand, and yes, holy occasion. Today was the day. The judge read through the initial legal jargon, asked for comments, …

What’s in a Name?

Tammy De Ruyter

Read: Genesis 17:1-8, 15 No longer shall your name be called Abram, but . . . Abraham. (v. 5) Abram became Abraham, Sarai became Sarah, and Saul became Paul. Repeatedly, God emphasizes the power and importance of a name, from the Garden of Eden to declaring that Peter, once Simon, is now the “Rock” upon whom “I will build my church” (Matt. 16:18). All throughout Scripture, name changes occur to mark significant moments. As Ben’s adoption day grew nearer, so …

Nightmares

Tammy De Ruyter

Read: Psalm 91 You will not fear the terror of the night. (v. 5) From the living room we could hear the intermittent voice in the bedroom. Were they talking again? Strange. The boys had been kissed goodnight hours ago. Suddenly, the voice reached an alarming, feverish pitch. We raced down the hallway to triage whatever was happening. Too late! Twelve-year-old Benjamin had slipped down from his perch on the top bunk and was kneeling beside the lower bed. Young …

Tender Goodbyes

Tammy De Ruyter

Read: 2 Timothy 1:1-14 I long to see you, that I may be filled with joy. (v. 4) In our family we hug and say “I love you” frequently as we come and go throughout the day. Perhaps you and your family do the same? This time, Mike was leaving for a week and his hug reflected the protracted duration. As he wrapped his arms around each of the children, his loving embrace lingered slightly longer than usual leaving young …