Harry Buis

READ : 1 Peter 3:1-7

We are approaching Mother’s Day. To be a good mother, one must be a good wife. The Bible teaches the headship of the husband in marriage. This is something many in our modern culture strongly dislike. But we cannot pick and choose only those parts of the Bible we like. This teaching must certainly not be understood as an excuse for a husband to be tyrannical or abusive. Such behavior is totally unchristian. It does mean that husbands are to take a leadership role, and wives are to respect that. When Paul speaks on this subject he points out that hus- bands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her. Leadership is to be carried out in self sacrificial love.

When a Christian woman has an unbelieving husband, she must not seek to convert him through nagging (v. 1b). Her conduct must be so gracious that she will make an impact upon him to Christ.

What is said here about inner beauty rather than attempts to enhance outer beauty is, of course, true of men as well as women (vv. 3,4). God looks at the heart, not at outer beauty. In a society where high powered advertising emphasizes outward appearance, we need to be reminded that the inner beauty of a gracious spirit is more important.


Father, in a day of confusion as to how the two sexes should relate, show us Your will in Your Word. In Christ. Amen.