Husbands and Headship

Tom McCrossan

READ : Ephesians 5:21-22, 25-33

Headship is a term used to describe the husband’s leadership role in marriage. Being “the Boss” is the last thing headship is about. Jesus, the real boss, left us his example and teaching, and it was all about loving service.

“Jesus said, ‘The kings of the Gentiles lord it over [others]. . . But you are not to be like that. Instead, the greatest among you should be like the youngest, and the one who rules like the one who serves. For who is greater, the one who is at the table or the one who serves? Is it not the one who is at the table? But I am among you as one who serves’” (Luke 22:25-27; Matthew 20:28).

As head of the house, the husband becomes the principal servant of his wife. “Just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy,” so the husband is to love his wife and help her to be all God intended her to be. He is to die to his own macho “rights” and be swift to meet his wife’s needs.

As head, the greatest responsibility for the well-being of marriage and family lies with the hus band, through servant love. Husband, do you love your wife as your own body? Show her true headship and leadership.


Grant me a servant’s heart like yours, O Christ, and the will to love others more than myself. Amen.