The Healthy Disciple Commits to Loving and Caring Relationships

Steve Macchia

READ : John 15:9-17

My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. (v. 12 NIV)

Trait Five: The healthy disciple prioritizes the qualities of relational vitality that lead to genuine love for one another in the home, workplace, church, and community.

Genuinely loving relationships cannot exist unless people can resolve conflicts. How do you deal with conflict? For many, the response of choice is to “sweep it under the carpet” and pretend it never occurred. But that only creates a bumpy carpet in the body of Christ – not safe for the Christian walk.

Far too many relationships are filled with painful, unresolved conflicts. Forgiveness is a topic of understanding but little application. However, the only way to begin sweeping out the bumps from under the carpet is to confess our sin and seek the forgiveness of others.

If you desire to embody the abundant life of Jesus Christ, then your relationships with others need to be genuinely loving and life-giving. Hard hearts that are unwilling to seek and offer forgiveness will not receive God’s mercy and forgiveness. Ask God to lead you to those you have hurt – or who have hurt you – and begin the process of reconciliation today. Do this and your walk through life will be smoother – guaranteed.


Lord, help me to lay down my life for my friends, even if it requires a forgiving heart.