Constructive Confrontation

Joel Plantinga

READ : Colossians 3:15-17

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly; teach and admonish one another in all wisdom. (v. 16)

Each year, the TV show The Biggest Loser helps overweight people achieve dramatic weight loss and a healthier life. In the program, three trainers work with people to develop new habits and learn new techniques for getting healthy. The season begins with an episode showing the trainers being brutally honest with the contestants about their weight, not afraid to speak the truth in order to help them change their behaviors. Even though the truth can hurt, hearing it is critical for change!

Sometimes we have to speak honestly to a brother or sister about something that can no longer be ignored. These are difficult and often uncomfortable conversations to have. Paul sets the appropriate context for us in that the Word of God should first dwell in us. If we teach and admonish one another according to Scripture, we are standing on solid ground. Sharing admonition with wisdom is a Holy Spirit-led task that calls for much prayer and listening to God.

Confronting ungodly behavior is a necessary task in Christian community. When circumstances demand, honest admonition is the most loving thing we can do to help a brother or sister in the Lord.


Lord, give us the wisdom to know when admonition is appropriate and the courage to act. Amen.