It Is Normal to Feel Lonely

Jeff Munroe

Read: Psalm 6

Every night I flood my bed with tears. (v. 6)

Loneliness is a universal human emotion. The very young can be lonely when they feel they don’t fit in at school or with friends. The very old can feel lonely following the death of a spouse. It is normal to feel lonely at one time or another.

The Bible acknowledges the full range of human emotions. The book of Psalms especially can be a guidebook for what it means to be human. Everything is in there—joy, rage, anguish, happiness, satisfaction, lament—you name it, you can find it in the Psalms. Why? Because God prefers honesty. Look at Psalm 6. We don’t know if David was physically ill when he wrote this, or if this was an expression of his emotional state.

We do know that David had times of both great anguish and great joy. He famously “danced before the Lord with all his might” (2 Sam. 6:14), and also fell into despair following the death of his son Absalom (2 Sam. 18:33). David was like you and me, experiencing highs and lows, and sharing them honestly with God. It is okay to be human and to express our emotions. Toward the end of Shakespeare’s play King Lear, a character says, “The weight of these sad times we must obey, speak what we feel, not what we ought to say.” Speaking what we feel may include saying, “I’m lonely.”

There is no shame in admitting you feel lonely. God wants honesty. —Jeff Munroe